#14 Under Wraps

     Secrets. Lies. They are the inner voices that hide within our conscious minds. They are the words that represent our feeling. In reality, why do we seem to have all the mess and bewildering approach in dealing with them?

Do we really have something more important than the fried chicken's
 recipes to conceal?

When facing with adversity, we have fear. It is the fear of how the whole world will look upon us in the event of complete failure, the fear of losing, the fear of fall from grace, just to name a few. At this stage, our brain will stimulate a response either to face the anxiety by sharing the stories with our loved ones or simply put a sock on it.

I remembered when I was a kid, I lied to my mother that I need more pocket money because the price for the food in my school canteen was too expensive. 

Feeling for the welfare of her son, my mother hastily agreed to raise my daily expenses without much deliberation. At the end of the month, I would use the extra collections to purchase my favourite miniature. Look. Everybody have lies and we seem to understand that these falsehoods are generally not confined to the gender, age, or the type of any person.

All in all, an adult’s every action and behavior will certainly carry an impact over the person around them. Specifically, a person’s age has nothing to do with spreading lies in that person. But, the age appropriateness has something to do with a liar.

For example, look at the situation I enlisted above. A kid would lie primarily to taste the little reward of his deceit. We have a sense of forgiving towards them considering their age and innocence. A grown-up person who cheats could possibly spell trouble to the environment, or, in worse case, the people who care about them the most. This is inexcusable for most people.

As an adult, people expect the words that come out from our mouth are true and believable. We do not simply create a public misconception on us until we are deemed untrustworthy by the society. The moment we find our friend have doubt in our words, it could possibly indicate that we do not possess that kind of impression whom people find they can trust upon.

In writing this article, it gave me plenty of headache as to muster all my experiences in my life from meeting with the different type of people who spread all kind of lies into this blog entry. No offense intended.

There are moments where we did something extremely bad, embarrassing, and therefore, we feel obliged to hide the facts from the people concerned. Although it sounds incredibly unfair to the people we cheated if we remain silent, we realize the act of divulging would end up with a greater backlash. As a result, we keep everything under wraps for as long as we can, and, if possible, for the whole lifetime! Anyway, it also sounds tad indecent to discern the right from wrong from the situation mentioned, or, vice versa.

The main point is if we choose to discuss the problems at the first place, perhaps we would gain a chance to repent after our past actions. We can make mistakes and as long we are determined enough to turn over a new leaf, so why not? On the other hand, the unintentional leaks of some undesirable secrets in the future may carry a way more serious repercussion to the culprits.

In a conversation with my mother on a particular day, we both came to a point and agreed that our family members are lucky enough indeed in the sense we have each other’s support and companion when things turn wrong.

We realized it is utterly important to have someone for us to turn to when we entangled with obstacles in our lives. ‘‘There are dozens of people around us who could not find someone whom they find reliable to share their thoughts’’, my mother observed.

So, the next time you find someone trustable who offers assistance to share your problems, don’t neglect them. They can be your family members, relatives, or close friends. In the end, feeling comfortable when talking to that person is what matters most. Since we have the courage to err, why we do not have the courage to admit them?

By: Vincent Ti