Secrets. Lies. They are the inner voices that hide
within our conscious minds. They are the words that represent our feeling. In
reality, why do we seem to have all the mess and bewildering approach in
dealing with them?
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| Do we really have something more important than the fried chicken's recipes to conceal? |
When facing
with adversity, we have fear. It is the fear of how the whole world will look
upon us in the event of complete failure, the fear of losing, the fear of fall
from grace, just to name a few. At this
stage, our brain will stimulate a response either to face the anxiety by
sharing the stories with our loved ones or simply put a sock on it.
I
remembered when I was a kid, I lied to my mother that I need more pocket money
because the price for the food in my school canteen was too expensive.
Feeling
for the welfare of her son, my mother hastily agreed to raise my daily expenses
without much deliberation. At the end
of the month, I would use the extra collections to purchase my favourite
miniature. Look. Everybody have lies and we seem to understand that these
falsehoods are generally not confined to the gender, age, or the type of any
person.
All in all,
an adult’s every action and behavior will certainly carry an impact over the
person around them. Specifically, a person’s age has nothing to do with
spreading lies in that person. But, the age appropriateness has something to do
with a liar.
For
example, look at the situation I enlisted above. A kid would lie primarily to
taste the little reward of his deceit. We have a sense of forgiving towards
them considering their age and innocence. A grown-up
person who cheats could possibly spell trouble to the environment, or, in worse
case, the people who care about them the most. This is inexcusable for most
people.
As an adult,
people expect the words that come out from our mouth are true and believable.
We do not simply create a public misconception on us until we are deemed
untrustworthy by the society. The moment we find our friend have doubt in our
words, it could possibly indicate that we do not possess that kind of
impression whom people find they can trust upon.
In writing
this article, it gave me plenty of headache as to muster all my experiences in
my life from meeting with the different type of people who spread all kind of
lies into this blog entry. No offense intended.
There are
moments where we did something extremely bad, embarrassing, and therefore, we
feel obliged to hide the facts from the people concerned. Although it sounds
incredibly unfair to the people we cheated if we remain silent, we realize the
act of divulging would end up with a greater backlash. As a
result, we keep everything under wraps for as long as we can, and, if possible,
for the whole lifetime! Anyway, it also sounds tad indecent to discern the
right from wrong from the situation mentioned, or, vice versa.
The main
point is if we choose to discuss the problems at the first place, perhaps we
would gain a chance to repent after our past actions. We can make mistakes and
as long we are determined enough to turn over a new leaf, so why not? On the
other hand, the unintentional leaks of some undesirable secrets in the future
may carry a way more serious repercussion to the culprits.
In a
conversation with my mother on a particular day, we both came to a point and
agreed that our family members are lucky enough indeed in the sense we have
each other’s support and companion when things turn wrong.
We realized
it is utterly important to have someone for us to turn to when we entangled
with obstacles in our lives. ‘‘There are dozens of people around us who could
not find someone whom they find reliable to share their thoughts’’, my mother
observed.
So, the
next time you find someone trustable who offers assistance to share your
problems, don’t neglect them. They can be your family members, relatives, or
close friends. In the end,
feeling comfortable when talking to that person is what matters most. Since we
have the courage to err, why we do not have the courage to admit them?
By: Vincent Ti
